Picking up the pieces after feeling like you’ve trashed your life is one of the hardest things to do. It requires courage, resilience, and humility
This blog post was brought to you by Becky Henderson, Transformation Coach, Licensed Professional Counselor, Writer, and Speaker
I’ve worked with thousands of clients over the years. I have one right now experiencing extreme anxiety and fear on a daily basis. In one session recently she threw up her arms and yelled, “What’s wrong with me?!!” I looked at her and said, “Nothing is wrong with you. Everything is operating according to its design. Yes, something is going on, but the pain you’re in is just the symptom, the effect; the pain is a perfect messenger. Your body, heart and spirit are trying to get your attention. If you listen, you’ll start noticing what it is that needs to be addressed. Stop fighting the signal and you’ll get to the source.” Consider that pain is the “Check Engine” light of our lives.
It has come to our attention that the greatest sober app ever to be invented has recently been released to the public at the start of this month. The app is called Sober Grid, and it is the greatest sobriety tool ever to be created for the iPhone.
Here is why we think that Sober Grid is the best app ever, and why you should download it immediately.
More often than not, as alcoholics and addicts, we struggle with some form of codependency.
Codependency is not black and white, by any means.
Codependency can manifest itself in a variety of ways: people pleasing, manipulation, narcissism, drama-loving, controlling, stalking, ‘doormat’ syndrome, and more.
The term ‘codependent’ generally has a negative connotation. We use the term to inflict emotional pain on someone by saying: “She/He’s sickly codependent,’ ‘I wouldn’t date him/her, they’re too codependent,’ or “What’s wrong with him/her? They’re so sensitive and codependent.”
If you have been sober for a couple of days so far, chances are you have heard someone say the word ‘grateful’ in a sentence.
If you have been sober for 1-2 weeks, chances are you have heard the word grateful used in so many sentences you feel overwhelmed by the word and are starting to question whether ‘grateful’ is a substitute for a word other than ‘grateful’.
Understandably so.
Gratitude is thrown around a lot in recovery. You hear the hard-core sober men and women say: “Get off your pity-pot and get in gratitude.” You hear gratitude is a necessary component of sobriety,” and “Write a gratitude list when you get in your head.”
In the midst of our disease, our world is chaos.
Everything we do feels rushed, overwhelming, and debilitating. Everyone we talk to is frustrating, nosy, and again, overwhelming. Every thought that enters our head feels cluttered, irrevocably powerful, and disheveled.
Our world is chaos and we don’t even realize the extent of our pain; what we do feel, however, is the weight of our thoughts: “life is so hard,” “why can’t I just get through one day without feeling like the world is ending,” “how can I keep on living this way forever?”
Then we get help. Whether self-diagnosed or court mandated, we find ourselves in a rehabilitation center for drugs and alcohol, or maybe even dual diagnosis.
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